Sunday, February 27, 2011

Deschooling: breaking free and Reconnecting

We’ve spent the past few months deschooling, in other words breaking free from the external structure of the schooling system and reconnecting with our own internal rhythm of life.  And in even simpler terms, it means giving ourselves a break and not doing much at all, allowing ourselves to find our own flow again.  It’s been said that it takes about one month for every year at school for us to return to our own flow, so for us 3 years at school means 3 months of deschooling...give or take ;-)  On a deeper level it takes adults much longer to break free from the conditioning and limitations of being schooled for the majority of their childhood, and move into new ways of trusting in the natural evolution of life and learning without fixed plans.

During this time we’ve been living life as usual…which at our place means lots of crafts, reading, outings, visiting friends, cooking, playing and all the other things that make their way into our days.  Not to mention swimming, dollmaking, painting, singing, drumming and circus!  We went on a ‘Wild Weekend’ away to a wilderness retreat and spent a few days learning about different bird calls, went on early morning bird-watching walks and went spotting nocturnal animals on a late night forest walk.  We’ve been reading ‘The Ringing Cedars of Russia’ series of books about Anastasia who lives in the Siberian forest, who has been sharing with us some deeply profound wisdom and practical information about how to live in harmony with nature and inspiring us to make the most of this life we are blessed with on Earth.  And although we are meant to be ‘doing nothing’, the girls’ thirst for knowledge has naturally led us to doing some projects and learning about animals such as dinosaurs, dolphins, foxes and unicorns!  Luna has shown a fascination with ancient civilizations, so we’ve been researching that too.  At the moment she has a particular interest in Eskimos and Indigenous Australians.  We’ve explored the difference between textbook history and true history, and looked at the current state of the world and visioned the world we would like to create for our future.  We’ve made Shamanic Drums, connected with power animals and connect with the directions and the elements in our morning circle.

And the main thing?  We have been connecting more deeply and beautifully together than ever before.  We are learning to listen and share and cooperate together, knowing that we are creating our life fresh each day.  We have reclaimed our life from the external hustle and bustle of rushed mornings and bus times and exhausted, wasted evenings.  We are spending our money on the things that directly enrich our lives, rather than spending hundreds of dollars a month on school fees.  We’ve been swimming at the river, having midweek sleepovers with other homeschooled friends, and allowing ourselves to step into the life we’ve always dreamed of.  And as a parent, I am rediscovering the joy of learning through my children, so we're simultaneously studying, playing & creating side by side. The pressure is off.  We are free.

So, as you can see, we haven’t really been doing anything.  Much. 


  1. LOVE IT!!!! Thanks for sharing

  2. Wonderful! Enjoy. What lovely times ahead. Thanks for sharing.

  3. Awesome!!!

    It took my daughter roughly a year to properly deschool, she'd been in prison for nearly 6 years. I think that as adults who were not only schooled, but fully indoctrinated with the idea of institutionalised learning it takes a lifetime of deschooling. But once you start you can't stop, it's fantastic!

    My blog has heaps of stuff about our journey to deschooling if you're interested :-D

    Keep going, and keep blogging!

  4. Beautiful post. My eldest daughter was in school for three years too. It took us longer to fall into a natural learning rhythm at home because I was so focused at the time on trying to "teach" them at home. Even though what I was teaching them was quite alternative and cool and fun, I finally realized how much nicer and smoother our days are when we are free to learn whatever tickles our fancy. I've just created a blog too and can't believe I chose the same theme page as you. What a spinout! :) Peace x

  5. Inspiring story.. I love it.. Keep it up :)